this is me:

What makes me come alive

I am a wife, mama, and coffee lover. I am a former elite athlete and coach turned clinical counsellor. I come alive with connection to my faith, others, nature, and growth.

I believe everyone has a story worth sharing. I’d be honoured to hear yours.

Barb Egan & Family

The best leaders have scars

After a career-ending injury, I transitioned into coaching. Therefore, I know first-hand about navigating injuries & rehabilitation, expectations, and identity after sport. I transitioned into counselling, because I personally benefited from it as an athlete and as an individual. I know what it’s like to be in the other chair; to feel stuck & overwhelmed.

But, I also know the hope-filled and empowering experience of someone walking with me during difficult times. I am now on the other side, & I am committed to being a safe and trusted co-journeyer with you.

“Owning our story and loving ourself through that process is the bravest thing that we will ever do” – Brené Brown

education & credentials:

My playing credentials include: Back-to-back National Championships with Shattuck St.Mary’s, The Ohio State University (Division-1, NCAA), and USA Hockey Olympic Development Program. My coaching credentials include: The Ohio State University, University of British Columbia, Pursuit of Excellence Hockey Academy, & a professional goalie coaching company, Elite Goalies, who partnered with BC Hockey, Hockey Canada, & the Dallas Stars. My counselling credentials include: Bachelor of Arts from The Ohio State University, Master of Arts in Counselling Psychology, a Registered Clinical Counsellor, Brene Brown Workshops, & various trainings in Couples & Family Therapy, and Anxiety & Stress. I am also a member of the Okanagan Learning Circle for Family Therapy and Board Member of BrainTrust Canada. I am privileged to work with a variety of athletes across sports, walks of life, and locations. I love getting to educate, equip, and empower others through speaking events and interactive workshops. These include:
  • “Overcoming Anxiety & Stress” with Wildfire Women
  • “Healthy Body, Healthy Mind” with Aligned Chiropractic
  • “Creating a Personalized Mental Workout” with BC Hockey
  • “Gratitude” events with Third Space Life Charity
  • “Performance, Pressure, & Identity” with Breakout West Music Conference & Festival
  • “What is Mental Health” with Heritage Christian School
  • “Stress Management Strategies”
  • “10 Cognitive Distortions & How to Replace Them:
  • “7 Steps to Turn Negative Thoughts into Positive Impacts”
  • “Communication Strengthening in Relationships”
  • & many more
Please follow me on social media for upcoming events. If interested please, contact me. I have experience with a variety of evidence-based therapeutic approaches. This includes attachment work, cognitive-behavioural therapy, core belief work, emotion-focused therapy, solution-focused therapy, faith-based work (Christian), positive psychology, and motivational interviewing. However, I personalize my approach based on you and your specific goals and strengths, so that you experience therapy in the most empowering and personal way possible.

inspiration & mentors:

I am inspired by those I have been fortunate enough to work with those who have overcome obstacles, and wherever they are, they are all there. They are alive.

My Teammates:

  • All of Team USA, especially my friends and former teammates, and mental health and women’s equality advocates Jocelyne and Monique Lamoureaux.
  • Team Canada Olympic Gold Medalist Natalie Spooner, along with Team Canada, Team Sweden, & Team Finland players. My former teammates, and still friends, your commitment and perseverance is inspiring to the next generation.
  • UBC athletes and coaches who showed impeccable resilience following the suicide of a player in 2016. Implementing sports counselling has helped this team tremendously following this devastating event. The legacy has inspired this Sports Counselling Program of 1-on-1 Counselling and Team Workshops.
  • As a former goaltending coach of one of the Humboldt Broncos’ goaltenders, I am inspired by their courage to continue to show up.
  • Saul Miller, NHL and professional performance consultant who helped my mental game and performance as a goaltender.

My “Coaches” & Mentors

  • As a counsellor, I was mentored by well-respected therapists such as David Fung (Director of British Columbia Association for Marriage and Family Therapy), Barb Gladue, Dr.Ed Weiss (Theological and Cognitive-Behavioural Therapy specialist) and Dr.Reba Glidewell (American Psychological Association, Trauma specialist).
  • I love the work and have done workshops on Dr. Brene Brown on courage and vulnerability, Dr.Sue Johnson & Dr.Gottmans on Couples Therapy.
  • I have extended experience in the Strengths Finders Assessment used by 90% of Fortune 500 Companies for leadership & team-building. It is also recognized for resumes, applications, & life guidance.

And mostly, my Teammates in Life

My husband, my kids, my family, & my bernese mountain dog, Molson. My grandfather, Steve Bilko, who was a major-league baseball player & instilled the importance of sport in me. It’s so much bigger than the game.

Natalie Spooner / Team Canada, Olympic Gold Medalist & Silver Medalist

The mental side of the game is extremely important. Having someone like Barb– who has been there as a player, coach, & mental health professional—is invaluable to help players perform their best on the ice, and in life!

Don't ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come Alive.

- Howard Thurman